The term ‘swingers’ has long been associated with the idea of ‘spouse-swapping’, where couples get together and have sexual relations with each other’s partners for lust and sheer pleasure.
But in modern times, just about anyone can get in on the fun, especially with the ease of access to communities, such as the Undertable Swingers Community (USC).
This online community not only seeks to connect sexually curious individuals with others who are looking for the same sensations in bed, but also encourage and provide a support network of sorts for those still in the early stages of exploring their own sexual fantasies.
From vanilla sex, to kinky sub/dom arrangements to full-on gangbangs, USC is a digital playground (literally and figuratively) where one can casually mingle with fellow members in search of their next hook-up hour.
The founder of USC is Mac Seah, 35, who came up with the idea to facilitate the meetings between members of a small community who wish to “explore the possibilities that exist beyond hand-in-hand relationships with one’s spouse”.
There is now a 54,000-strong membership count that sees couples and individuals organising most of their meet-ups in fancy hotels or in their own homes. Mac mentioned that local authorities disallow the exploration of lifestyles of those who join USC, and the demographics of the community is largely working adults, ranging from about 26 to 45 years old.
“Most are in fast-paced industries, who deal with large amounts of stress or are simply getting tired of routine bedroom activities. They are the ones who are looking for that spark to reignite a relationship, or to start a journey of exploration,” he says.
Whatever the draw or reason for joining USC may be, it is still a community that prides itself on mutual respect, support and non-judgement.
I plunged head first into this intriguing community and signed myself up for an account not knowing what I was in for. The details required are rudimentary, with new users required to provide a username, preference and a short bio (optional, but highly recommended if you’re looking for quicker responses).
In less than a day, I had notifications alerting me of a handful of members who were drawn to my one-liner disclaimer of being a sapiosexual (which I really am, BTW).
I started off with easy small talk with a few of the members who private messaged me, and what I got in return were sincerity and openness — something I didn’t think would happen from the get-go.
There was no pressure from anyone to do or say anything that I wasn’t comfortable with, and I was very encouraged to see like-minded sapiosexuals who were totally okay with simply just talking.
For starters, I began with the easy stuff, like what their wildest experience has been, the reasons behind joining USC and how their sex lives have changed since joining.
Of course, there were others who were far more forward with their advances straight out the gate, which I’m fine with, really. Considering the nature of the site, it’d actually be surprised if people weren’t more forward with what they’re seeking.
Besides being able to send private messages between members, there is also a common community chat page where people recount their experiences, have a casual chat about their day or talk about anything else under the sun.
To get yourself orientated, you can easily navigate your way through the threads from the main page, which lists the main topics of interest.
Although most members are from Singapore, there are other threads that cater to numerous countries in South East Asia, which brings to light just how prominent this seemingly niche community is.
Naturally, there were times when I stumbled across very riveting exposé confessions and titillating personal experiences, which admittedly can be intimidating, but also very eye-opening and insightful.
In fact, some members are more than willing to go into great detail about their hook-up sessions, which almost automatically shoots them to USC stardom, as their username pops up across the site numerous times.
And, if you’re short on advice on how to be an ideal swinger, there are also threads that dispense hard and fast lines of conduct to maximise your experience.
As far as I know, membership is free. Unless, of course, you’re hook, line, and sinker all-in on the perks and benefits of a VIP member.
So, who is USC for? And why does it even exist? Like all minority groups, there is a need for support, and most importantly understanding. Perhaps, you’re a sexual deviant by nature, or you’re in the midst of exploring your sexuality, or you’re bored with your current sexual status and looking to add excitement to it.
USC, from my observations, is a safe and even rewarding platform for those looking for more-than-missionary coitus. It’s about trying new things, meeting new people, and believe or not, spreading the word that such a lifestyle exists and is normal.
Just like how some people will always go for vanilla ice cream, there will always be others who can’t live without their triple fudge, salted caramel, pecan swirl sundae — even when the rest of the world frowns upon them for their dire diet decisions.